JULIE GILLASPIE

Relationship & Love Coach

Get the 5 Foundations of Empowered Relationships

Are you deeply connected in your relationship? Or are you stressed out, frustrated, or stuck in a rut? Your relationship with your partner may be the most potent and transformative relationship in your life, which is why it is also often the most challenging. Learn how to tap into the power of your collective love, tension, and intention to transform your relationship stress into strength. You can create the strongest most fulfilling relationship of your lives - together.

 Coaching Programs for Couples

Conflict to Connection

Transform your relationship from a source of stress into a source of strength - together.
Learn How to:
1. Communicate in a way that helps you feel relaxed and strengthened in your interactions as a couple rather than frustrated and depleted  
2. Handle each other’s defenses and triggers effectively, thus creating a whole new way to “do conflict” 
3. “Read” your partner and help them “read” you so you can cut your conflict time in half (or less) and both get what you need. 
4. Repair quickly and efficiently so you spend less time fighting and more time connecting 
5. Create deeper understanding so you can both feel seen, understood and valued 
PLUS: Learn the key things you may be doing to block deeper connection with each other and what to do about it 
This program is not for you if you are:
  • Wanting to blame and complain and not own your part 
  • Unwilling to do inner work and self reflection to learn more about yourself 
  • Not open to changing how you show up in your relationship 
  • Wanting to keep putting the problem “on them” (ie “he/she needs to change…”) 
  • Looking for support only and are not open to being challenged 
This program is for you if you are:
  • Feeling misunderstood, unseen, and/or unfulfilled in your relationship 
  • Tired of repeating the same cycles and patterns in your relationship that get you nowhere 
  • Ready to ‘be students’ of your relationship - open to learning a better way, together 
  • Willing to look at your own part and make changes 
  • Looking for someone to call you forward to show up stronger in your relationship 
  • Wanting accountability and actionable steps to help you transform your relationship 
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Repair from Affair

A Relationship Renewal System - Explore what relationship can be like on the other side of infidelity and betrayal. Rebuild on a new foundation.
Learn How to:
1. Identify the 3 post-affair stages and work through them one at a time
2. ‘Stop the bleeding’ so you can start the healing
3. Make sense out of the hurt and pain
4. Get out of helplessness and into personal and relational empowerment
5. Take tangible steps to rebuild trust
6. Work toward envisioning and creating a new future
PLUS: Learn the key things may stand in your way of moving forward together and and what to do about it
This program is not for you if:
  • One partner is unwilling to do the work to repair (in that case, see Individual Programs) 
  • One or both partners are unwilling to do inner work and self reflection to learn more about themselves 
  • One or both partners are not open to changing how they show up in relationship 
  • One or both partners are not willing to be completely transparent 
  • You are looking for support only and are not open to being challenged 
This program is for you if:
  • You are both ready to deal with an act of betrayal in your relationship and you want someone with experience to skillfully help you navigate your way through 
  • You are in shock, in pain, and not sure what to do after a relationship betrayal comes to light 
  • You are both ready to learn steps to repair and apply what you learn inside your relationship 
  • One or both partners is not sure if they want to move forward in relationship together or not but you want to explore the options, together 
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Collaborate & Deepen

Co-create and collaborate to solidify the foundation of your relationship. Reach higher levels of mutual fulfillment and joy through deep connection & intimacy in your relationship. 
Learn How to:
1. Infuse your relationship with excitement by practicing mindful curiosity each day 
2. Become an ‘expert’ on your partner in a way that has you both feel deeply trusting and relaxed 
3. Work most effectively as a team, especially in the face of challenge 
4. Repair quickly and efficiently thus transforming conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection 
5. Turn your relationship into a sustainable source of energy and a resource to draw upon in all other areas of your life 
PLUS: Learn the key things you may be doing to block deeper connection with each other and what to do about it 
This program is not for you if:
  • You are a ‘beginner’ to growth and development work 
  • You spend more time in conflict than in connection (in this case, the Conflict to Connection program is a better place to start) 
  • You are not open to learning more about yourself and your partner  
  • You are not willing to make changes or be open to learning a new way 
  • You don’t believe you can reach a deeper level of connection  
  • You are convinced you already have it ‘all figured out’ 
This program is for you if:
  • You have a relatively strong partnership and you want to keep growing together 
  • You have done personal growth work, both separately and together 
  • You operate on a basis of respectful communication 
  • You know how to communicate fairly well with each other, though you still run into challenges from time to time 
  • You understand and embrace conflict as a part of connection 
  • You are excited to keep learning and growing together
  • You are open to your blind spots and are willing to make changes 
  • You are looking for someone to call you forward to show up stronger in your relationship 
  • You want accountability and actionable steps to help you deepen your relationship 
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